Top 10 Important Dating Tips for Men
There is a saying that "you never get a second chance
to make a good first impression." With that in mind, it is vital to
be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on.
Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression
that will last.
1. Take a Bath or Shower
One
of the worst things you could do when going out on a date
(especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven,
looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and
will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would
be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog
with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days.
It doesn’t
cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell
nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and
she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you
are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see
beyond your appearance.
2. Arrive on Time
Whatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will
send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she's
been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to
you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time.
If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn
up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch
her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early
is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
3.
Give Her a Thoughtful Gift
A woman feels special when
the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a
thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman
before a first date that came from phone conversations, emails, etc.
Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For
example, let's say that the woman really likes golf. There are
companies that make chocolate golf sets - a miniature chocolate club
with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a
great first date gift. For a generic thoughtful gift, buy a
chocolate rose. That's always appropriate without being overboard.
4. Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her,
let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite
to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special
and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
5. Compliment Her
The first thing to say to
her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up
the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4
for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be
complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted
to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger
impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More
than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real.
6. Listen to Her and Ask Questions
Nobody
wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about
themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her
questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A
woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing
what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and
letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for
the Conversation
The last thing you want is to be
sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date
and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is
easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or
that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in
the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking
about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your
focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.
8. Pay
for the Date
It's virtually always appropriate for a
gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon
himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of
"chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some
women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on
this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her
know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
9.
The Goodnight Kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a
first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even
try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and
chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If
it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it
doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. I'll Call You
Only tell her that you will
call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not,
under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not
interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying
goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck. Or
you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do
like her and are interested, then you must let her know.